The book touches on the idea charities, including churches, are not helping people by simply providing for their needs. Everyone needs to feel self worth and have a stake in their future. Here is one of her specific mentions.
When organizations give Christmas gifts to the less fortunate families the children know those gifts are not from Mom and Dad. There is an expectation of gifts from unknown "rich people" as they are often referred. The best way to handle this is for those wishing to give to buy toys and gifts then bring them to a central location unwrapped. Those in need are then invited to come "shop" for the gifts. The gifts are priced in a manner that is affordable (like a $20.00 gift for $2.00) so the parents can know they bought the gifts and the kids will know they are from them, not "rich people".
I know there is Santa Claus involved for the younger kids but even then the parents will have picked the gifts and will have the feeling they are their own. She really has a point. many other areas of support and giving are covered in the book as well but this is a good example.
A little food for thought.
Ken